assuming you are not a lazy person
There is a common saying,
All you want is on the other side of fear.
I am going to show you how to overcome the fear that’s keeping you back. But first, I need you to recognize that fear is the enemy that’s stopping you from getting what you want.
Do not make the enemy a witch from your mum's village nor the curse that was supposedly laid on your father because he shook an elderly woman with his left hand instead of his right hand.
The fear you have comes from “interacting with people” and it often shows up in these 3 ways:
This person does not like me.
This person is being malicious to me.
They always tell me "no"
So here's the answer to all 3 fears that are stopping you from getting what you want.
If you think someone does not like you, ask your brain who told it. If no one told you they do not like you, do not let your brain assume for you.
If you think someone is intentionally trying to sabotage you, consider that you are a tiny aspect of that person's life and what you attribute as malice from them can just be "careless speech" on their path. They might just be having a tough week.
No is very powerful feedback, but there are situations where "no" is not the answer. It's not about not taking "no" for an answer. It's about recognizing that there are many more answers between "yes" and "no". If someone tells you no, they need you to recognize their authority to say, "no" as a form of feedback but it does not mean they are not willing to help you.
Example Scenario: You are organizing an event and you're out of time and forgot to order the chairs in time. You call the event's company to get chairs delivered to you and they tell you, "No, we cannot deliver chairs at this time."
What do you do next? Do you drop the call or worse you grovel and beg? Or do you propose another way you can get the chairs, maybe you drive down and pick them yourself?
Whatever your answer is, you now know what’s keeping you from getting what you really want.