How to get what you want

assuming you are not a lazy person

There is a common saying,

All you want is on the other side of fear.

So fear is the enemy that’s stopping you from getting what you want. Not a witch from your mum's village nor the curse that was supposedly laid on your father because he shook an elderly woman with his left hand instead of his right hand.

If you are able to muster enough will to get out of your way and just pursue things, the next blocker/fear you'll encounter that’ll stop you from getting what you really want is “interaction with people” and it often comes in these 3 ways:

  1. This person does not like me.

  2. This person is being malicious to me.

  3. They always tell me "no"

So here's the answer to all 3 fears that that's stopping you from getting what you want.

  1. If you think someone does not like you, ask your brain who told it. If no one told you they do not like you, do not let your brain assume for you.

  2. If you think someone is intentionally trying to sabotage you, consider that you are a tiny aspect of that person's life and what you attribute as malice from them can just be "careless speech" on their path. They might just be having a tough week.

  3. No is very powerful feedback, but there are situations where "no" is not the answer. It's not about not taking "no" for an answer. It's about recognizing that there are many more answers between "yes" and "no". If someone tells you no, they need you to recognize their authority to say, "no" as a form of feedback but it does not mean they are not willing to help you. 

Example Scenario: You are organizing an event and you're out of time and forgot to order the chairs in time. You call the event's company to get chairs deliver and they tell you, "No, we cannot deliver chairs at this time."

What do you do next? If you drop the call or worse you grovel and beg, then now you know what’s keeping you from getting what you really want.

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